When we've broken up with a loved one and want them back, we want it to happen fast. 15 minutes would be good, and it can happen. We don't want it to take weeks or months as we try to let time heal their wounds.
You don't need to wait weeks. Often you can get your ex back in just a day or two. Sometimes you can get your ex back in just minutes. To do this, you need to understand one crucial issue.
First, you've got to understand something about emotional logic. Your ex used to have positive feelings about you. That's why you were a couple. You both felt good about being with the other person. Obvious, right? Now, things have happened and your ex has their heart full of negative feelings about you. Anger, hurt, sadness, betrayal, boredom, depending on what happened. The positive feelings have been replaced with negative emotions. Also obvious, right?
So in order to get your ex back fast, you have to help them to release those negative emotions about you. When you help them to release them, you can get them back fast, sometimes in under 30 minutes.
How in the heck can you, who they will barely talk to, help them to release their bad feelings towards you? There are several steps to help you accomplish this, but a crucial step you already know. It's called venting, getting things off your chest.
You must help them to get their bad feelings about you off their chest. You don't argue or justify or try to explain yourself. You let them talk and blame you and curse you if they need to. Your job is to make them feel heard.
As they blame or shout or cry at you, they are actually releasing those bad feelings. They are venting out the emotional charge about what you did. If you don't argue with them, if you make them feel heard, they will release those feelings some, making room in their heart to consider taking you back.
There is a whole art and science to getting your ex to vent in a way that is effective, but if you can get your ex to vent their negative feelings you can often help them make room in their heart to give you a second chance. This can happen within 15 minutes, sometimes, depending on what happened and how you go about reconnecting. There's more to this, but you don't need to wait weeks or months to get your ex back if you have a powerful reconnect strategy.
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